MANIFESTING A PARTNER- GONE WRONG!

I absolutely love manifesting and I have been doing so for quite a few years now. Out of all the times I have manifested things in my reality, there was this one time when I manifested a partner and it went wrong! To give you a disclaimer, firstly the story I am about to share is very real and true and it is my real story. Secondly, yes manifestations can go wrong if you don’t do it right. Don’t worry, I’ll take you through it so that you don’t make the same mistakes.

Let me introduce myself a bit. I’m Preet, I am almost 27 and I am divorced. Since mychildhood, I have craved love in all forms, from all sorts of people and relationships in my life. I had what you can safely call a rough childhood, a traumatic one for various reasons. I was harshly bullied in school, teased for how I look, for my skin colour, for being bossy, for being someone who gets angry easily, for someone who is loud. The list can actually be endless. Because of everything that I went through, I developed a sense of immense self-doubt. A self-doubt so strong that it ruined the years that lied ahead of me. I used to have zero self-confidence, no sense of self- worth, I constantly felt I am ugly because of my skin type and skin shade. I had no

sense of validating myself so I seeked outside validation so much, in friendships, in romantic relationships, from my parents, everywhere. This continued till I was 25 years old.

Now see, what happens is that, PEOPLE MIRROR YOU. What you think is true about you, that is exactly what people will think is true about you as well. For this reason, your sense of worth has to be very strong and unbreakable. Another thing you need to know here is that, you ‘attract’ basis the vibrational frequency you are at. Meaning- if you are coming from self-doubt, from lack of self-love, from under-confidence, etc, that is exactly what you will attract. You will attract situations and people who will re-affirm all these things in you!

I was 22 and half I guess, single, extremely lonely, running a small business whose potential I had exhausted and had no social life as such. I had been heartbroken a number of times by then and somewhere I knew that love marriage won’t happen for me given my track record. My loneliness made me desperate to find a partner. I pitched to my parents to look for a guy for me through arranged marriage set up. They did hesitate, they knew everything about me, even my loneliness and my desperation. They did ask me to wait. But I was very stubborn about settling down at that time. Honestly, at that time, that is all I cared about. I just wanted a husband. Now I knew how to manifest so I did that. I made a list of everything I wanted in my partner, in his family. I noted down everything. I did belief work and healing as well. I did end up attracting ‘one of my soulmates’. I say ‘one of my soulmates’ here because we have multiple soulmates, not all of them are compatible with us. I’ll tell you more about this in my upcoming blogs. Now, most of what I had written did come true but it took a wrong turn. My partner didn’t love me unconditionally, he didn’t accept me the way I was neither did his family, I was forced to do things I didn’t want to do, I was constantly under a lot of pressure, the efforts most of the time were one- sided. I tried my very best to ‘mould myself’ according to him and the family. I had no

boundaries because I wanted to ‘please them’. To really explain in a single sentence, my life was like a ‘Ekta Kapoor Serial’. No offense. They were really nice people, we just ‘did not align’. I attracted them basis my vibrational frequency at the moment.

I want to bring to your notice a few things-

1) My intention for manifesting a life-partner was – loneliness and

desperation. ‘Your INTENTION while you manifest anything is of key

importance.’ The universe does not respond well to ill=intentions. Your

intentions no matter what you want to manifest is of utmost importance. Your

WHY behind your WHAT needs to be crystal clear, always.

2) Even after working on myself for so many years, my self-love quotient was pretty nil. Which means, I had low self-worth, I was not comfortable in my own skin, I doubted myself way too much and I had inferiority complex. A

very important and non-negotiable factor before you manifest a partner

is SELF-LOVE. ‘You cannot expect another person to love you

unconditionally if you don’t love yourself unconditionally’. This just is the rule. There is no running away from that.

3) I started to and almost did lose myself while trying to be a ‘good wife’ and a ‘good daughter-in-law’. I was ready to sacrifice my integrity and I had ‘no

boundaries’ what so ever. When we do this, we basically tell the universe that

I don’t value myself and that people can walk all over me and I let them and

that boundaries are not important to me. I was like this long before I got

married as well, and hence I attracted this.

4) I RUSHED to get married. I was IMPATIENT. I did not trust the universe

and put a lot of pressure on the universe. When we manifest anything,

‘surrendering, faith and patience’ play a key role. I did not follow these rules

and so my manifestations backfired!

5) Another reason, I personally believe, in my humble opinion, for all this

happening with me was- KARMIC. I am a firm believer in karma and past

lives and reincarnation. When we have to clear some karma, we will have to

go through certain situations in our lives. Also, some souls choose to come in your life to teach you lessons. In all honesty, I am extremely grateful to my ex- husband’s family and him, because if it weren’t for them, I wouldn’t be the

person I am currently. Having said that, if I did learn my lessons earlier and

followed the other rules of manifestation, I would have attracted better!

6) I had major attachment issues and abandonment issues as well.

I got married when I was 24, separated at 25 and divorced at 26. I am sharing this here with you to tell you what mistakes to not make while manifesting a partner.

Manifestation is an art and a science and you have to follow the rules to it. It doesn’t work any other way!

Some pointers I would love to share with you as a summary to attracting soulmates-

1) Please develop immense self-love before manifesting a partner. ( you can

refer to my 21 days of self-love program and start your self-love journey

today)

2) Detach from the outcome of manifesting a soulmate.

3) Keep your intentions behind manifesting very clear and pure.

4) Heal from all past wounds, especially relationship wounds before attracting a partner. Always remember, you attract basis your vibrational frequency.

5) Manifest a partner only when you are ready and complete in yourself.

6) Do not let the society standards fool you into marrying at a specific age.

7) Patience, surrender and unconditional faith!

8) Have very strong, healthy boundaries.

9) Attract, do not chase, ever!

I really thought you could learn from my experience, I hope you do!

If you want to manifest a soulmate in your reality, I have a ‘1 month, intensive, one on one, attract your divine most compatible soulmate program’. Get in touch with me to get the details and sign up today!

Take a step towards a better you, get in touch with me, today.